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Bernadett Toth's avatar

Phew, what a post. This really hit me hard. Thank you 🙏

Just a few days ago I went through another opportunity to heal and I just buckled down and I failed. It’s always the same story ,me against my many different forms of addiction. Codependency with people, things etc… I want it my way and the authority issue. It’s plays out differently but it’s the same thing.

I just put away The Course because I was in exactly the same place you mentioned in your essay. I have been sampling the spiritual buffet for too long and not really allowing healing. While the spiritual ego was stroking itself with beautiful words and then flipping the coin over delving in to pain deep enough to enjoying its darkness and calling it healing. I just had enough!

I have willingly accepted I’m not the one in charge and I truly don’t know what’s good for me or even how to make anything happen.

Thank you for making me admit this in writing Sean, may God heal the mind that’s gone rogue and finally accept the forgiveness that’s being offered.

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Kimberley's avatar

This is such a thought provoking post! I appreciate your description of what addiction feels like to you. For me, it is one word…”more.” It sometimes comes as a scream, but more often than not, it is an almost imperceptible whisper and I unconsciously follow it…always believing, of course, it will give me what I want, what I long for, but being far from it in the end…even though we have what we want to begin with!

I find myself asking, if special relationships is the ego’s chief device, what is addiction?

I’m also asking, if the feeling we reach for in our addictive actions, behaviors and habits is ecstasy, and is holiness true ecstacy? I want to pair those words, and I don’t! In doing so, I comfort myself with the stories of the mystics, Teresa of Avila, Julian…where it all was just the pure love of God blazing through hearts and minds.

I think also of Mary Oliver who says, “Joy is not crumbs.” And this is what I have found to be any addiction or addictive like behavior or desire in my life…crumbs. I wonder, is holiness the whole enchilada?

The simple words that come to me are: Everything is perfect. Otherwise is a mirage. Everything is whole. Otherwise is crumbs. Everything is holiness. Otherwise is hollow.

Everything is remembrance. Otherwise is forgetting.

If only I can remember. Thank you for helping me remember.

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