Sean, I love how you defined holiness: it's a quality our relationship creates, in which we share through behavioral practices of collaboration and communion. It helps me see that holy relationships are part of creation and our function. When we show up for each other, God's will is done. After 33 years of marriage, every day is the work of being together, embracing the old and the new, and weeding out specialness. No matter the circumstances, it's so beautiful to look at my husband and my (grown) children and think, “You are the work of God, and His work is wholly lovable and wholly loving." Thank you.
You're welcome, Susan. Thank you for this: "When we show up for reach other, God's Will is done." I've been pondering "will" and this helps clarify. I also like that practice of looking our spouse and kids and seeing God's work. Chrisoula and I met in 94 in law school and married a year later - for me, it's been an incredible site of learning how to be helpful, "weed out specialness," et cetera. Can I ask, does your husband share your spiritual practice?
Thanks for being here, Susan. I always look forward to your comments.
Your question made me laugh a bit! No, he does not share my spiritual practice. It's funny, but I don't think he needs it. Although he is rough around the edges Italian, his heart has always been more open and softer than mine. He showed up with an innate kindness. He always considers what might be the highest good for others. There's some yelling, but we laugh a lot now. It hasn't always been easy, but he helps me see things differently. I couldn't have a better teacher than him.
Thanks for sharing that, Susan. I very much identify. A lot of what I struggle with - service, ego, understanding, forgiveness, et cetera - just flow really naturally for Chrisoula. It does not ground in language for her - she's not really interested in talk so much as doing. Why talk about what you can just go do? A lot of my happiness in my home, gardens, fields, forests and all that really come down to being her partner. "What would Chrisoula do" is always a helpful question for me.
Her folks immigrated from Greece in the early 70's. You and I struck gold with our Mediterranean partners!
My growth has benefited from my continued look at my shortcomings thanks for the reminder that this is a necessary step in my salvation. My successes are the result of my looking at my short coming. thanks again for the reminder.
Hey Jack, thanks for sharing. I hope all is well on your end. Yeah, the while process of examining my defects and making amends and being willing to be transformed so I don't keep inventing new reasons to make amends is important work. Thanks for being here, Jack.
Sean, I appreciate this correction of perception on the domestic life lab of learning! When my husband and I each arrived at the washing machine with armfuls of clothes, I was grateful for Holy Spirit's whisper of peace and time-a-plenty. Willingness rewarded, I found hot tea and this thoughtful post.
Sean, I love how you defined holiness: it's a quality our relationship creates, in which we share through behavioral practices of collaboration and communion. It helps me see that holy relationships are part of creation and our function. When we show up for each other, God's will is done. After 33 years of marriage, every day is the work of being together, embracing the old and the new, and weeding out specialness. No matter the circumstances, it's so beautiful to look at my husband and my (grown) children and think, “You are the work of God, and His work is wholly lovable and wholly loving." Thank you.
You're welcome, Susan. Thank you for this: "When we show up for reach other, God's Will is done." I've been pondering "will" and this helps clarify. I also like that practice of looking our spouse and kids and seeing God's work. Chrisoula and I met in 94 in law school and married a year later - for me, it's been an incredible site of learning how to be helpful, "weed out specialness," et cetera. Can I ask, does your husband share your spiritual practice?
Thanks for being here, Susan. I always look forward to your comments.
~ Sean
Your question made me laugh a bit! No, he does not share my spiritual practice. It's funny, but I don't think he needs it. Although he is rough around the edges Italian, his heart has always been more open and softer than mine. He showed up with an innate kindness. He always considers what might be the highest good for others. There's some yelling, but we laugh a lot now. It hasn't always been easy, but he helps me see things differently. I couldn't have a better teacher than him.
Thanks for sharing that, Susan. I very much identify. A lot of what I struggle with - service, ego, understanding, forgiveness, et cetera - just flow really naturally for Chrisoula. It does not ground in language for her - she's not really interested in talk so much as doing. Why talk about what you can just go do? A lot of my happiness in my home, gardens, fields, forests and all that really come down to being her partner. "What would Chrisoula do" is always a helpful question for me.
Her folks immigrated from Greece in the early 70's. You and I struck gold with our Mediterranean partners!
~ Sean
Yes! English, Irish, and Scotch ancestors here. Was it just too chilly :)
Sean
Relationships R, the heart of my course practice.
My growth has benefited from my continued look at my shortcomings thanks for the reminder that this is a necessary step in my salvation. My successes are the result of my looking at my short coming. thanks again for the reminder.
Love your post
Jack T
Hey Jack, thanks for sharing. I hope all is well on your end. Yeah, the while process of examining my defects and making amends and being willing to be transformed so I don't keep inventing new reasons to make amends is important work. Thanks for being here, Jack.
~ Sean
Sean, I appreciate this correction of perception on the domestic life lab of learning! When my husband and I each arrived at the washing machine with armfuls of clothes, I was grateful for Holy Spirit's whisper of peace and time-a-plenty. Willingness rewarded, I found hot tea and this thoughtful post.
There is nothing like the unexpected gift of time! And I love that phrase - "domestic life lab." Thank you for being here, Deborah 🙏🙏
~ Sean
I agree, we couldn’t ask for better traveling companions.
Thanks,
Robyn
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