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Well, I had my own little 'kicking'/'cat lady' (read dog man) kind of experience this morning. Having woken up to a beautifully serene and calm moment before rising for the day, I put the headphones in to listen to an audio book and take the dog for a morning walk.

At one point in the walk, I guided Herbie towards the side of the path to let a Family go by. Clearly they were walking their Daughter to her first day back at School. As I started to walk away, above my audio book I could hear someone shouting from behind. It was the Dad, shouting at me. He wasn't pleased!

'Are you going to just leave your Dog's shit there?' I turned around and he repeated the question, a bit louder...

I genuinely had not realised the dog had managed to take a dump in the short time I'd been guiding him to the side of the path. My immediate reaction was ' this guys got it wrong'. But as I walked back to him, I could tell. I was wrong.

So, I did the reasonable thing, I ignored the guys angry rant, calmly apologised, held out my hand as a means of calming the situation (he refused to accept an apology). I took out a poo bag from my back pocket, picked it up, thanked the guy for telling me.

I was gutted. I made a mistake. But the guy was intent on judging me to the extent he took a picture of me as he angrily walked away. I called out 'Have a good day bud', my tone might have been half sarcastic...

My normal reaction would be to be angry with the guy, angry with myself. Angry for him talking to me like that, angry for ruining my beautifully peaceful morning. Angry for being in confrontation. Angry that the guy took a picture of me. Angry that the guy doesn't know who the hell I am and clearly has gone away with a picture of some lazy scumbag who never cleans up after his dog. Angry at being angry. And immediately after, I guess I was.

But, I get it. Maybe normally I would dwell on it, get angry, get fearful of consequences, let it ruin my day. But actually, the lad was right. I'd have been disgusted if that happened in front of me. I would like to think I would have been a bit more measured in my response. I'd like to think I might have given the guy the benefit of the doubt, especially if he'd apologised and picked up the mess. I certainly wouldn't have felt the need to take a picture of the guy.

But also, maybe my response was what he needed. Maybe he was expecting an argument. Maybe he was expecting some kind of confrontation. Maybe a more calm and measured response was what he and I needed. Maybe I needed, in this peaceful moment, to be a bit more present...

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Robyn Quaintance's avatar

We all make mistakes... especially years ago, early in our spiritual journey or before we discovered it. It is for forgiveness - and forgiveness means forgetting. I do find sometimes the experiences continue to replay in my mind.... so I go through my forgiveness process once again.... and again! Eventually, they are forgotten. Thank-you God!

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