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Susan Leahy's avatar

Thank you for sharing, everyone. We are fellow trekkers. I was with a friend yesterday who likes to label herself "awake". Many folks are deemed asleep. My ego happily joined in her separation talk for a bit, basking in sanctimonious separation from the sleepers. After lunch she noticed a politically motivated sign hanging in the restaurant window. She commented harshly We agreed the sign was a form of virtue signaling and mindlessly declared our own correct position and the restaurant owner's wrongness. When my friend proudly announced she wouldn't be giving the business any of her money and asked if I would frequent that favorite restaurant with the "unacceptable" sign in the window, I finally became conscious. I smiled at my ego's error and admitted I would continue to enjoy the restaurant. She defended her decision saying if enough people didn't give them business they would recognize their error and pull the sign. I told her that was certainly one experimental way to find out. Another might be for her to go talk to the manager, etc., but I told her I had mistakenly fallen into an old pattern of judgement and my way of creating change would be internal. I told her I have decided to send the owner light and love. We had texted each other 2 days ago and I shared my new practice of non violence. Whenever I have conflict I send love and light. It turned out to be a perfect example to my friend of how I had momentarily failed my practice and the restaurant sign would be another opportunity to send love. We enjoyed our ride home. I don't know if she was peaceful but I thanked myself for making the shift and beginning once again on the long trek to inner peace.

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Thomas Fontenot's avatar

I was very angry over someone who “left” me.

I heaped hate and guilt on her everyday, I was broken to pieces and she had done this to me.

Then yesterday I had this clarity come to me.

The cause of my pain and suffering was this ancient unconscious guilt rising up in my mind, and I could not help but see it outside in her.

The pain didn’t stop but it’s cause was seen in me, instead of her, and I released her from condemnation.

I hope that I can look at it, and release myself from this excruciating guilt and fear.

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